If u haven't seen it yet, you need to get to youtube and search Gnarles Barkley. But I don't think that anyone who has watched the entire video can deny it's brutal honesty. All the normally unspoken baggage that each partner drags around, after a relationship has ended, and how that baggage can be used to control, use or abuse that former partner. Now, I have tugged on my fair share of heart strings at my leisure and convenience and I imagine that most of us have, and if u haven't u were the one getting tugged at. I suppose it's the thrill of knowing that your ex- will do anything for u, or of doing something for them, while holding on to some shred of hope, grasping at straws trying to get back in good graces. The worst happens after a fall from grace in a horrible way and one insists on letting the other jump through hoops, allowing them to hang on your every word and gesture; knowing full well that there doesn't exist even the slightest ray of possibility that they will ever make amends for what they have done.
And what then.......the damage is way too much to control and internalize, at least for one person. All that gets left behind is a cold empty shell of the person who once was. No one can blame anyone for that. It takes way too long after some experiences like that to regain the ability to trust again, much less love.
We kill people, we destroy their spirits when we treat them that way. And not just those we tug at. Every single person that they come to know subsequently is at risk of the same thing. When a reluctant, coy figure upsets the rapport as soon as it gets personal. Frustration will eventually set in, and that person will leave, proving time and time again to your former lover that everyone who comes along will eventually leave......Making it immensely more difficult for the cycle to get started again.
Impact, as deep or as subtle as it may seem, has far reaching effects. And that ripple effect only gets bigger and bigger, encompassing more and more people, more and more lives. An increasingly numb number of people.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
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